The greatest mystery of our time
I watched some of The OC without Mute whilst waiting for the Episode III preview (which was really not worth the suffering), and it took about two minutes for me to despise the show and everyone on it. That's actually longer than I expected, but I wasted several seconds a. wondering why one of the girls was already in her pajamas, and b. making fun of the other girl for being a whiny dumbass.
But that's not what this post is about.
I doubt anyone will ever know the answer to "Why do boys say they will call you when they have no intention of doing so?" My leading theory had always been that if you put out on the first date, they're done with you and drop you. However, before I got up this morning, I was thinking back, and it seems to me that the opposite is true.
There's actually only one boy I slept with on the first date in the last year or so, and we ended up dating for several months. Sure, I've slept with other people on short acquaintance, with no actual official date involved, but even those guys ended up being friends, or at least fuckbuddies.
It's the ones who take me on actual dates who really lie about calling. Let's see... There was a fair-to-middlin' date with a guy who vanished for six weeks, then called as if that were perfectly OK, and expected me to recognize his voice when he did. There were two kinda fun dates with a guy I could tell I was going to be done with soon, who didn't call when he was supposed to and was never heard from again.
If I have a date that's mediocre from my perspective, I don't string the guy along and claim I'm going to call. Granted, there wasn't really stringing along in the above cases, 'cause I wasn't exactly enthused about either of them, but still. Common courtesy does count for something.
But as far as the whole question of putting out goes, I didn't even kiss the first guy, and only made out with the second.
Has someone gone and changed the rules on me about this? Is there even a rule?
'cause if not, I'm just going to jump the next one as soon as I feel like it and hope it works out.
But that's not what this post is about.
I doubt anyone will ever know the answer to "Why do boys say they will call you when they have no intention of doing so?" My leading theory had always been that if you put out on the first date, they're done with you and drop you. However, before I got up this morning, I was thinking back, and it seems to me that the opposite is true.
There's actually only one boy I slept with on the first date in the last year or so, and we ended up dating for several months. Sure, I've slept with other people on short acquaintance, with no actual official date involved, but even those guys ended up being friends, or at least fuckbuddies.
It's the ones who take me on actual dates who really lie about calling. Let's see... There was a fair-to-middlin' date with a guy who vanished for six weeks, then called as if that were perfectly OK, and expected me to recognize his voice when he did. There were two kinda fun dates with a guy I could tell I was going to be done with soon, who didn't call when he was supposed to and was never heard from again.
If I have a date that's mediocre from my perspective, I don't string the guy along and claim I'm going to call. Granted, there wasn't really stringing along in the above cases, 'cause I wasn't exactly enthused about either of them, but still. Common courtesy does count for something.
But as far as the whole question of putting out goes, I didn't even kiss the first guy, and only made out with the second.
Has someone gone and changed the rules on me about this? Is there even a rule?
'cause if not, I'm just going to jump the next one as soon as I feel like it and hope it works out.