True love doesn't just show up at your doorstep one day. If you're sitting at home watching TV alone every night, it's not going to find you. If you never talk to anyone when you're out in public, it's not going to find you. If your expectations are too extreme or your requirements too persnickity, you're not going to find true love.

Then again, I believe that true love is more than a list of requirements.

Sorry, not trying to jump on you here because I totally agree that Ms.Luna here needs to chill on the ol'obsessing thing but I think that a lot of people use the concept of "true love finds you" as an excuse to be all passive about it and then turn bitter when it doesn't happen.