I'm sure all this "I found him when I wasn't looking" isn't that cheery right now, but it does seem to work in a lot of cases. Personally, I had become completely resigned to a life as a crazy cat lady (granted, I only had one cat, but that could be worked on) when I started dating Tony. Not only that, but he was someone I knew and had been friends with for quite some time. Then one day, something just clicked. I blame IM. We mostly knew each other from larping, which isn't always conducive to non-game conversation.

So anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is that weird things happen when you least expect it.

But I'm not sure if no hope or false hope is worse. Both can be crushing.

Just live your life the way you want, become happy with yourself, and the rest is just icing on the cake.