A fish without a bicycle
Jul. 25th, 2004 01:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
darklunaMy friend Karen, who's solo by choice, says, "Every time I'm in a relationship, I feel like I'm a car with the air conditioning on all the time. Sure, I can go, but my engine just can't run as well."
--from Kiss My Tiara by Susan Jane Gilman
I have an annoying tendency to want to glom onto people and pin all my hopes on them. I catch myself doing it all the time. I'll meet a cute boy who seems cool, and some stupid little background part of my mind will go Ooh ooh! Maybe this one's the one! The Boy For Me! Yay!
And he never is.
And the part of my brain that actually THINKS knows that it's probably just not time for me to meet the person I'll want to keep. I'm busy with my own stuff. I'm cynical and suspicious and possibly the tiniest bit hostile about boys. But the part of my brain that's given over to daydreaming keeps wanting it to happen NOW NOW NOW.
Sigh.
I have several virtues, but patience is not one of them. My mom sent me one of those Japanese kitties with its paw up, the silver one that's supposed to confer patience. I think it's too small. I need one that's approximately toddler-sized.
If you ever want to weep for the state of humanity, try browsing an online dating site where people post their profiles.
And I quote:
I'M A COOL DUDE , WHO'S HONEST AND JUST LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH. HOPEFULLY DO ALOT OF TRAVELING AROUND THE WORLD. ECSPECIALLY TO RUN AROUND NAKED ON THE BEACHES IN SPAIN. OR ANYWHERE.
Ow, my freakin' ears! It's not all in caps, thank god, but it's all in that just-barely-literate style.
***
On a page of 20 search results, at least 9 of them mention being "easygoing." Is this code for something? It's not a quality I would go out of my way to hype even if I had it.
***
Public service announcement 1: one refers to people by "who" or "whom," not "that." If you're "looking for a girl that likes to have fun," I will not talk to you, as I am troubled by the possibility that you would not realize I am a person.
***
Public service announcement 2: if you're going to make a big deal about being educated, to the extent of putting it in your username, you should probably spellcheck everything you post. To wit:
i'm a well educated man, who is happy for the time beign. but i'm looking for that some lucky lady to come accross, and just complete me. some lady who can support me, and be there through my weekest momments.
***
Public service announcement 3: if you're going to claim you're good-looking, don't post a picture that makes you look like a vague, balding, pasty-white blob. And if you're going to check "average" for body type, you might want to actually be average. If you fill out your height and weight, we'll KNOW if you're a big LIAR. I've seen guys claim averageness and, bold as brass, fill out their stats as 5'8" and 200 pounds. Um, NO. I myself am the very picture of average as far as height and weight go, but three years and thirty pounds ago, I would never claim I was less than "curvy." I'm sure this is symptomatic of women being brought up to be aware of every extra ounce and guys being told that being "beefy" is good.
Did I mention I was cynical and maybe a little teeny bit hostile about boys?
--from Kiss My Tiara by Susan Jane Gilman
I have an annoying tendency to want to glom onto people and pin all my hopes on them. I catch myself doing it all the time. I'll meet a cute boy who seems cool, and some stupid little background part of my mind will go Ooh ooh! Maybe this one's the one! The Boy For Me! Yay!
And he never is.
And the part of my brain that actually THINKS knows that it's probably just not time for me to meet the person I'll want to keep. I'm busy with my own stuff. I'm cynical and suspicious and possibly the tiniest bit hostile about boys. But the part of my brain that's given over to daydreaming keeps wanting it to happen NOW NOW NOW.
Sigh.
I have several virtues, but patience is not one of them. My mom sent me one of those Japanese kitties with its paw up, the silver one that's supposed to confer patience. I think it's too small. I need one that's approximately toddler-sized.
If you ever want to weep for the state of humanity, try browsing an online dating site where people post their profiles.
And I quote:
I'M A COOL DUDE , WHO'S HONEST AND JUST LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH. HOPEFULLY DO ALOT OF TRAVELING AROUND THE WORLD. ECSPECIALLY TO RUN AROUND NAKED ON THE BEACHES IN SPAIN. OR ANYWHERE.
Ow, my freakin' ears! It's not all in caps, thank god, but it's all in that just-barely-literate style.
***
On a page of 20 search results, at least 9 of them mention being "easygoing." Is this code for something? It's not a quality I would go out of my way to hype even if I had it.
***
Public service announcement 1: one refers to people by "who" or "whom," not "that." If you're "looking for a girl that likes to have fun," I will not talk to you, as I am troubled by the possibility that you would not realize I am a person.
***
Public service announcement 2: if you're going to make a big deal about being educated, to the extent of putting it in your username, you should probably spellcheck everything you post. To wit:
i'm a well educated man, who is happy for the time beign. but i'm looking for that some lucky lady to come accross, and just complete me. some lady who can support me, and be there through my weekest momments.
***
Public service announcement 3: if you're going to claim you're good-looking, don't post a picture that makes you look like a vague, balding, pasty-white blob. And if you're going to check "average" for body type, you might want to actually be average. If you fill out your height and weight, we'll KNOW if you're a big LIAR. I've seen guys claim averageness and, bold as brass, fill out their stats as 5'8" and 200 pounds. Um, NO. I myself am the very picture of average as far as height and weight go, but three years and thirty pounds ago, I would never claim I was less than "curvy." I'm sure this is symptomatic of women being brought up to be aware of every extra ounce and guys being told that being "beefy" is good.
Did I mention I was cynical and maybe a little teeny bit hostile about boys?
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Date: 2004-07-26 03:21 pm (UTC)When I was (very, very briefly) using UDate, I was highly amused that most (as in, the vast majority) of men rated themselves as better than average looking. Heh. That pretty much says it all right there, even without checking the photos to see how untrue it generally was. Mind you, I don't think they were actually lying intentionally, I think they just have far higher opinions of themselves than are justified. But that is not a particularly appealing trait, at least not to me.
If it's any comfort, despite my thinking brain knowing it's stupid, I have that same little part of me going, "This could be the one!" It's very annoying.