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Jan. 11th, 2008 11:13 amMy mom. Bless her heart.[1] I had to lay down the law yesterday.
Her inevitable signoff when she talks to me on the phone[2] is "Just be careful." Uh. Mom? I've been taking care of myself for half my life now, and I have not yet killed myself through sheer incompetence. If I can't make it through the night when the most challenging thing I have planned is walking up the stairs to my bedroom, I don't deserve to live.
I know this probably sounds like "Oh, wah, my mom is too concerned about my well-being, poor me." But, dude. Chick is IN. SANE. Do you know anyone else in her 30s who has to leave her mom a message when she gets home after a night out?
She doesn't make Little Sis do that. She says it's because Little Sis is married and someone would know if she weren't where she was supposed to be. Isn't there supposed to be some point at which you take it as a given that your child can navigate the world safely? I have a home alarm system, I'm smart, and I'm cynical and suspicious by nature. If something bad is going to happen to me, it's not going to be because I've just wandered into trouble. Nothing preventable and bad is going to happen to me.
So last night I told her she needed to lay off. Not in so many words, of course. If I'm mad, she gets mad too. I tried to make her understand that it makes me feel like she thinks I'm a bumbling idiot when she makes me check in every damn day.
She got pissy, of course, and did her passive-aggressive thing, and said "Well, I just won't call you anymore, then." And I'm sure the next time I need to talk to her, she'll be huffy. I wasn't trying to make her mad, but at least I got the desired result. *sigh* I'm a bit old to have to cut the apron strings, doncha think?
1. A southern-ism I find quite useful, as it's universally recognized as code for "That person is wrong in the head".
2. Which she has done at least once a day for the last several years. If she can't reach me, she loses her shit. I'm not kidding. Ask![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
tvnewseditor what happens when she fails to get in touch with me for, like, 18 whole hours.
Her inevitable signoff when she talks to me on the phone[2] is "Just be careful." Uh. Mom? I've been taking care of myself for half my life now, and I have not yet killed myself through sheer incompetence. If I can't make it through the night when the most challenging thing I have planned is walking up the stairs to my bedroom, I don't deserve to live.
I know this probably sounds like "Oh, wah, my mom is too concerned about my well-being, poor me." But, dude. Chick is IN. SANE. Do you know anyone else in her 30s who has to leave her mom a message when she gets home after a night out?
She doesn't make Little Sis do that. She says it's because Little Sis is married and someone would know if she weren't where she was supposed to be. Isn't there supposed to be some point at which you take it as a given that your child can navigate the world safely? I have a home alarm system, I'm smart, and I'm cynical and suspicious by nature. If something bad is going to happen to me, it's not going to be because I've just wandered into trouble. Nothing preventable and bad is going to happen to me.
So last night I told her she needed to lay off. Not in so many words, of course. If I'm mad, she gets mad too. I tried to make her understand that it makes me feel like she thinks I'm a bumbling idiot when she makes me check in every damn day.
She got pissy, of course, and did her passive-aggressive thing, and said "Well, I just won't call you anymore, then." And I'm sure the next time I need to talk to her, she'll be huffy. I wasn't trying to make her mad, but at least I got the desired result. *sigh* I'm a bit old to have to cut the apron strings, doncha think?
1. A southern-ism I find quite useful, as it's universally recognized as code for "That person is wrong in the head".
2. Which she has done at least once a day for the last several years. If she can't reach me, she loses her shit. I'm not kidding. Ask
tvnewseditor what happens when she fails to get in touch with me for, like, 18 whole hours.
